Parent-teacher conference.

It is a meeting format that does not benefit any three parties, but must exist.

For teachers, the parent-teacher conference is the time when parents in the class hand in their semester reports. However, in the report, they should not express their opinions too subjectively, but they must also make parents aware of the seriousness of the students' situation in school.

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This is very uncomfortable for teachers. If you say too many good things, parents will relax in tutoring their students. If you say too many bad things, it will easily arouse parents’ dissatisfaction. If you speak truthfully, it will make parents feel that the teacher’s educational methods are insufficient.

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As a result, in order to maintain the balance among the three parties, most teachers will choose to spend a lot of time at each parent-teacher meeting on promoting the school's various arrangements and planning for the next semester, which is a framework and unobjectionable content, commonly known as making up the time.

For parents, attending parent-teacher meetings is even more uncomfortable, because not only do they have to listen to teachers’ complaints about their children, but they also have to face comparisons with other parents, especially parents of poor students. Every time parents meet, they wish their children were not in the class.

My mood during roll call was even worse than when I was in school.

But at the same time, they are also somewhat curious about their children's status in school, and they hope that teachers can provide targeted solutions and how to cooperate.

But it is a pity that at every parent-teacher meeting, apart from basic student performance, little other information is obtained from teachers. Instead, we hear a lot of useless information about school promotions and honorary activities.

This makes parents feel as if they are attending a press conference....

As for the students, they are both sad and happy, because every parent-teacher meeting means they will have a holiday, but it also means that they will have to have an education in the evening.

Therefore, students at this time will always regard this short vacation as the last day of their lives and enjoy it to the fullest.

In short, parent-teacher conferences are a painful experience for all three parties, so many young parents would rather have their grandparents attend.

The Elementary School Affiliated to Beijing University is okay because they are from families that value education very much, and most of the people here are parents.

But today's parent-teacher conference in the form of a large meeting is still very novel to the parents of Jinghua Affiliated Primary School.

Looking at the busy teachers and students in the center of the big podium, they felt as if they were in a movie theater. Although they received a notice from the school that this parent-teacher meeting would be a speech on the theme of improving family education, they still didn't understand it.

Home education? Isn’t that just going home to help with homework?

Is there any need to hold a conference?

Parents entered the venue one after another, looking around the noisy venue of three to four thousand people. Wang Shifeng, who was standing on the large podium, felt a little complicated.

Unexpectedly, after being called "teacher" by fans, I would actually be able to stand on the podium and hold a parent-teacher conference one day.

Things in the world are unpredictable. Do you think this is nonsense?

Because it was an event hosted by Principal Hu himself, almost all the teachers in the school were present, not just the juniors and juniors, but even some university teachers who had no classes also came to join in the fun.

So the aisles in the first row were full of people. The faces of these real teachers were full of inquiry and curiosity. They didn't know what the young man on the stage was going to say.

The time was almost up. As the host, Principal Hu gave a speech without too much nonsense. He just explained the content of today's activities and hoped that parents would cooperate.

After the warm applause, under the expectation of everyone, Wang Shifeng stood up and took the microphone and said with a smile, "Thank you. First of all, I would like to thank Principal Hu for his support and cooperation, which allows me to share my views on learning with you on such an occasion. Secondly, I would like to thank you for your support and cooperation."

Thank you parents for sacrificing your precious time to come here and listen to me share."

The parents gave them applause and encouragement, but they were still very confused.

What can a young man who looks like he is in his early twenties share with them?

"Let me introduce myself first. My name is Wang Shifeng. I work as a host and like writing. With the support of Xia Shi leaders and professors from Jinghua University, I wrote a book that heals adults. I happened to be introduced to

Principal Hu, he felt that many of the stories in this book were suitable as enlightenment for family education, so this event was created." Wang Shifeng continued to flex his muscles.

He knew very well that his parents would despise him when they saw him young, so he needed external force to increase the weight of his words.

In this environment, character creation is very important.

If Wang Shifeng only introduced himself as a host or author, parents would still look down upon him, but if he added the leaders of Xia Shi, professors of Peking University, and the principal of the attached primary school, these three people with high social status would be enough to make Wang Shifeng's

The status is directly elevated.

There are only two possibilities for being able to chat and laugh with these big shots at this age, one is having excellent ability, the other is having a good relationship.

This made the parents subconsciously no longer dare to look down upon the young man on the stage.

Because his status has improved, parents can listen carefully to what Wang Shifeng says at this time.

In psychology, this is called the ‘authority cue effect’.

When a person is small, his words are light; when a person is noble, his words are heavy.

Because in the general values ​​of society, people equate status with success, power with success, and success with correctness.

Therefore, in the eyes of most people, people with high status or success are often correct role models. Obeying their words will give people a sense of security and trust. This is authority.

Secondly, due to the psychology of blind obedience and approval, people will yearn for and trust authority, and will subconsciously follow the authority's words and deeds as templates and goals to practice.

This is also a common saying, when you succeed, your farts will taste good.

Sure enough, after Wang Shifeng showed off his muscles, there were whispers at the scene. Most of them were discussing Wang Shifeng's identity or admiring his achievements at such a young age.

Although they had no idea what Wang Shifeng did and what his achievements were, they even directly ignored the fact that his job was as a host.

All I know is that he is standing on the stage right now, which is no small matter.

"What I want to share with you today are some of my own reflections and investigations after I was a student and after I entered the society. I hope it can benefit all parents." Wang Shifeng said with a warm smile on his face.

Smiling, pacing slowly on the big podium

"When I was a student, my grades were generally mediocre. Even during parent-teacher meetings, I would not be called out by the teacher. This also allowed me to more objectively distinguish the differences between good students and bad students in school.

and the characteristics of their parents.”

You have given lessons to thousands of parents on this platform, and you are still mediocre?

Boy, you have some Versailles.

However, this topic has really aroused the interest of parents. What is the difference between good students and bad students?!

"Let's not talk about the quality of the students today, but mainly talk about the characteristics of the parents." Wang Shifeng changed the topic and changed the subject from the students to the parents.

"In a well-known Western university, with an observation period of 25 years, a follow-up survey was conducted on nearly 10,000 families from different family areas starting from kindergarten, and finally a set of data was obtained. Whether a child is outstanding has little to do with his or her performance in school.

, but it is greatly affected by the family environment.”

After Wang Shifeng finished speaking, the whispers in the audience became a little louder.

What does this mean? Can the family environment affect children?

I understand, does it mean to let the children win at the starting line?

Isn’t that money ability???

Most parents think that the excellence of their children is basically linked to their academic performance and salary, and what can directly affect their performance is the quality of teaching in the school. As for the family environment, they think.

Besides looking at homework, what influence can we parents have?

Wang Shifeng waved his hand to indicate silence.

"The investigation of this set of data mainly compares from two levels: genes and environment. Genes refer to innate IQ genetic conditions, and environment refers to family and social environment.

I know that many parents think that their children do not study well because they do not work hard, are playful, have problems with the quality of school education, etc. But this is not the case. There are methods for learning efficiency, but learning ability depends almost entirely on intellectual talent.

It cannot be made up by hard work or other methods.

The reason why top students are called top students is not because they can score 100 points, but because the full score is only 100 points."

As soon as he finished speaking, the scene almost exploded.

What does this mean? Is my child’s poor performance due to his IQ problem?

Then I will kick you three times later. I can also say that it is not because I can only kick you three times, but because you can only hold up three of my kicks!

How can you curse someone!

"Everyone, please be patient and listen to me." Wang Shifeng raised his voice. "We are all from the student days. There should be some people in the class who don't study very much, but have good test scores and study seriously.

, a classmate who spends all his time forgetting food and sleep but keeps failing in exams.”

The discussion at the scene was quiet now, because the birds were eating.

There are these two kinds of people in every class. The most irritating ones are the students who don't study hard for a semester and cram for the final exam in a week and come out on top. That's the most irritating thing.

At this moment, they suddenly realized that this might be what Wang Shifeng had just said.

IQ gap?

Woc? There isn’t really a problem with my child’s IQ, right?

Suddenly some parents panicked.

"But I always feel that the level of grades does not mean excellence, it can only prove the strength of learning ability." Wang Shifeng laughed softly.

"Because everyone knows that grades in school are of little use after entering the society. Most of the skills we currently rely on for survival are learned after graduation. In fact, what is really useful is what is gained in learning.

Cognitive dimensions and ways of thinking, this is the true meaning of learning.

I was watching the news some time ago, and many people on the Internet now propose to kick mathematics out of the college entrance examination, because 95% of people think that there is no need to understand so many mathematical formulas in daily life, as long as you know addition, subtraction, multiplication and division.

, what’s even more interesting is that in this survey, about 70% of people agreed.

But I have a friend who said something to me when he saw this news, which made my skin stand on end.

He told me that mathematics is to eliminate these seven people."
To be continued...