"Hello, Miss Yang, I'm Yuan Jia, please come in."

Yuan Jia turned sideways and raised his hand to invite the guests in. The distance between the two was about one meter. This distance ensured each other's private space. He did not take the initiative to shake hands. Many guests were not used to shaking hands with strangers.

Sure enough, this small detail made Ms. Yang relax a little.

"Hello, Dr. Yuan, I'm really sorry for being a little late."

Ms. Yang, who looks ordinary and wears glasses, is about 25 years old. She did not enter the office immediately. Instead, she took a moment to look at the environment inside at the door. She held the strap of her bag with her right hand, even though the bag was slung very firmly.

The left hand is slightly clenched, with the thumb curled up between the four fingers.

For psychological counselors, observation has always been a very important ability. Through the subconscious facial expressions and body movements of the client, the client's personality characteristics can be initially judged.

This girl is insecure.

This is Yuan Jia's first impression of her. Of course, it will be constantly revised in subsequent contacts.

The countdown in his eyes did not affect Yuan Jia's vision. On the contrary, Yuan Jia found that since the countdown appeared, his eyes could capture more details.

"It's okay, please sit down."

Yuan Jia took her to the office. There was no one else in the office, so he did not close the office door. The unfamiliar confined space would also make guests feel uneasy, especially this girl who initially judged to be insecure.

Miss Yang took the cup of warm water handed to her by Yuan Jia. The water temperature was just right. It could warm her hands when she held it without burning it.

Her first impression of Yuan Jia was very good. Although she had not formally contacted him yet, she felt inexplicably very secure and reliable.

"Let me introduce myself first. My name is Yuan Jia. I graduated with a master's degree in psychology from Sunan University. I am good at emotional and psychological analysis and help. Ms. Yang can trust me."

"Well... Doctor Yuan, I came today just to ask you to help me... I feel like there is something wrong with my relationship with him, but I don't know what to do, so I feel... uncomfortable."

Yuan Jia smiled and said, "You can call me Teacher Yuan."

Although teacher or doctor is just a title, it means something completely different to the customer.

Ms. Yang nodded, gradually adapting to the unfamiliar environment. She became emotional, her eyes turned red, and she seemed to ask with some difficulty.

"Teacher Yuan, he just plays games every day after get off work. He always ignores me when I talk to him. Do you think he doesn't love me anymore?"

While saying this, Ms. Yang put her legs together, her calves slightly curled up under the chair, her hands holding her lower abdomen, her eyes uneasy.

This further confirmed Yuan Jia's judgment that she was insecure.

"Many girls are troubled by this kind of problem, but everyone's situation is different. Can you explain it in detail? When did you start to know each other?"

Yuan Jia nodded slightly and said softly.

So Miss Yang started from the time when Pangu opened the world, and talked about her love life in every detail. Sometimes her eyes got red as she talked about it, so Yuan Jia thoughtfully handed her a tissue.

Unlike ordinary listeners, Yuan Jia did not show any impatience. He nodded from time to time and asked a few small questions. Miss Yang almost regarded him as her best friend.

…

Time passed unknowingly. From the beginning of the consultation, the countdown in Yuan Jia's eyes was going, 36, 35, 34... 1

Yuan Jia's eyes narrowed slightly, and he rarely lost his mind for a while while chatting with the guests.

When the countdown reached zero, the Trisolarans did not arrive. Instead, a system common in novels arrived!

[Human Psychological Analysis and Learning System-Activation Successful]

[Yuanjia: Ordinary psychological counselor]

[Available points: 1000]

[Professional attributes]: (50 for ordinary people)

Love: 90/100 (excellent)

Respect:90/100(Excellent)

Acceptance: 90/100 (Excellent)

[Professional skills]: (20 for ordinary people)

Observations:35/100

Listen:42/100

Empathy:25/100

Worry-free:35/100

[Vocational training courses]:

{Personal experience of exam syndrome} (not studying)

{Personal experience of social phobia} (not studied yet)

{Personal experience of depression} (not studied yet)

{Personal experience of persecution paranoia} (not studied yet)

{Personal experience with bulimia nervosa} (not studied yet)

{Personal experience of obsessive-compulsive disorder} (not studied yet)

{Personal experience of transvestite behavior} (not studied yet)

…

The previous data was okay, just some personal information panels about Yuanjia himself. When he saw the item [Vocational Training Course], Yuanjia had a strange look on his face.

What's going on with these hundreds of courses? There are even some weird psychological behaviors that Yuan Jia has never heard of. The most important thing is the four words "personal experience". Is it because he is required to experience them all?

Hundreds of weird psychology?

[Activate the system for the first time - give away a senior psychological counselor experience card - 60 minutes]

As soon as the system finished speaking, Yuan Jia felt his mind clear for a while. At this moment, his scores in the four abilities of observation, listening, empathy, and troubleshooting all increased to 50!

At this time, when he looked at Miss Yang in front of him, Yuan Jia seemed to be able to see a slow-motion enlarged playback.

Her fingers were red from exertion, she was uneasy about the rustle of her shoes on the floor, and her emotions could be heard from the voice of her voice. Every word was extremely clear, as if it had become a network diagram, psychologically

The layers outline her as a person.

Especially empathy!

Yuan Jia seems to be able to put herself in Ms. Yang's situation and thus feel and understand her emotions!

Empathy is the most precious and difficult ability for human beings to improve. After all, everyone has different experiences and there is no way to put yourself in the other person's shoes and understand their emotions.

Lu Xun once said: "Human beings' joys and sorrows are not the same. I just think they are noisy."

But now, Yuan Jia clearly felt Miss Yang's emotions and the uneasiness deep in her heart.

Miss Yang didn't notice anything strange about Yuan Jia, but she felt more and more that Yuan Jia listened to her words and trusted him even more.

Yuan Jia's mind is clear now, and his solution ideas are also clear.

He exited the system and continued to help Ms. Yang solve the problem.

…

"Just last week, I couldn't get angry, so I unplugged his power. He said he was playing in a group game, and yelled at me very loudly, very harshly. Then he ignored me for a week now. Teacher Yuan, what do you mean?

Does he want to break up?"

"Yes."

Yuan Jia gave her an affirmative answer and saw Miss Yang's tears pouring out like water bursting from a dam.

"How could he be like this!"

"Isn't it true that three years of relationship can't compare to that lol?"

"What should I do...I don't want to lose him..."

Seeing that the guest had completely released his emotions and opened the protective shield, it was easier for Yuanjia to find the problem.

"How is your parents' relationship?"

"They divorced when I was very young, and I grew up with my father."

Yuan Jia found a breakthrough and continued to ask about Ms. Yang's past. It turned out that she grew up in a divorced family, and her father often beat and scolded her for trivial matters and behaved inappropriately. He was often seen cuddling with strange women.

Growing up in this environment, Ms. Yang became very insecure and had low self-esteem. Because she was not outstanding in appearance and felt that she had no merit, when she was with her boyfriend, she would ask him all day long, "What do you like about me?"

She is also extremely clingy, and her boyfriend has to report his whereabouts to her wherever he goes. If he doesn't reply to her messages or answer her phone calls in time, he will easily get distracted by trivial matters.

"Ms. Yang, I have a general understanding of your situation. The reason for this kind of problem is that you lack a sense of security, do not trust yourself or others deep down, and take 'loss' very seriously.

Psychologically, the consequences and burdens are magnified."

Yuan Jia sorted out the results of the psychological analysis. The more he talked about it, the stronger the trust in Miss Yang's eyes became.

"Then Teacher Yuan... what should I do... I used to feel like I was insecure, but I just couldn't change it."

Ms. Yang is very distressed. The reason why she came to psychological counseling is that she must be aware of her own problems. Basically, every client is the same. They will not tell the psychological counselor the most real situation, but through some things, hope that the psychological counselor will

If the consultant can analyze the results and match them with his own subconscious judgment, then trust will be established.

"First of all, you have to admit your heart, admit that you need care and companionship, feel the emotions in your heart, face it, and live with it. The more you resist this emotion, the deeper the fear will be..."
To be continued...