Without letting the children disturb you, Zhu Yiliu and Zheng Miaojin enjoy the rare world of two.

After some intimacy, he asked softly:

"Will you feel depressed, irritable, and bored sometimes when you live in the palace all day long?"

"Why did you suddenly ask this?" Zheng Miaojin said.

"Because I have been wondering why there is such a big crack in the relationship between Zhang Jingxiu and Qin Hanqian. Logically speaking, the lives of the couple are much more interesting and richer than ours." Zhu Yiliu said frankly.

"People are different," said Zheng Miaojin. "Everyone has different ability to bear. It is hard to say about emotions, but I think there is a crack in the relationship between Zhang Jingxiu and Qin Hanqian, which is probably related to their expectations."

"Everyone will have expectations."

"Yes, but the level of expectations is different." Zheng Miaojin said slowly, "If you have too high expectations after getting married, you may feel depressed because it is not in line with your wishes. Once you do not meet your wishes, you may feel deteriorated because you are not good at mediating your emotions. Over time, you will become depressed and you will always be troubled."

"Oh, if you explain this, then I have to ask you, our relationship is still so good. Is it because we don't have high expectations for each other?" Zhu Yiliu said in a teasing tone.

"That's not, anyway, I'm not. My expectations for you are still very high." Zheng Miaojin hurriedly explained, "I just said that expectations are only one side, but also on the other hand. Although I am not familiar with Zhang Jingxiu and Qin Hanqian, I believe that your ability to bear must be better than Zhang Jingxiu. As for me, do you think my ability to bear is not as good as Qin Hanqian?"

"Definitely not." Zhu Yiliu said, "Among women, you are the one who has the strongest ability to bear after I came to this world. The only one that can match you is probably Sister Yumeng."

This is Zhu Yiliu’s truth, without any exaggeration. How much pressure did Zheng Miaojin bear at the beginning? And Wang Fenghuan is the same.

Their psychological tolerance is much higher than that of women of the same era.

At least this is true among the women Zhu Yili knew, and no third one could be found.

Zheng Miaojin also did not deny that he had always been very confident in his psychological tolerance.

If it were another woman, she would probably have been Emperor Wanli, and she would not have been able to wait for Zhu Yili.

Zheng Miaojin really admired Wang Meng's psychological tolerance. Such a big thing happened and she was pregnant. If someone else had probably died long ago.

"So I say expectation is on the one hand, and psychological tolerance is on the other hand. It is not advisable to expect too much. When expectation is not in line with your own wishes, you must be able to bear it and learn to accept it calmly. Whether it is a husband-wife relationship or other relationships, this will avoid many conflicts and make your mood more happy."

"I think Zhang Jingxiu and Qin Hanqian are definitely not doing well." Then Zheng Miaojin added.

"Then how do you think we should improve it?" Zhu Yiliu asked humbly.

"It's hard to say. People are different, and everyone has different mentalities. They are all adults. It seems not easy to change them. They can say them, but it's difficult to do it."

"Well, that's it."

"In my experience, in addition to reducing expectations, learning to bear and resisting stress, we must also have the ability to live alone, because no matter how much you love you, the person who will not be by your side at all times. It is certainly a wonderful thing for those who love you to be by your side at all times, but when you are not around, you must also cherish yourself, not be negative, decadent, and not indulge, what do you think?"

"It would be great if Zhang Jingxiu and Qin Hanqian understood." Zhu Yili said with emotion.

"Didn't you talk to Zhang Jingxiu?"

“It’s not talked so deeply.”

"In fact, no matter how deep the conversation is, it is useless. In the end, they have to rely on their own understanding and practice to listen. Doing is always much more difficult than saying and understanding. However, based on my understanding, Zhang Jingxiu's accident this time should be much more restrained and he will not be so demanding anymore. I believe Qin Hanqian is the same. The more people experience, the more their hearts can settle down without being impetuous."

"Oh, I really should let you go and teach Qin Hanqian for guidance and guidance." Zhu Yili sighed again, "I always think that the relationship between them is due to the two people, not the one person's one-sided reason."

"That's certain."

"Although I don't have the chance to say to Qin Hanqian in person, I will definitely convey your words to Zhang Jingxiu, hoping that Zhang Jingxiu can take them back."

"Don't think I'm too long-winded. It would be my honor to help the couple a little, and I'm very happy."

"I believe it will."

"When will Zhang Jingxiu go back? Has the news of the accident been sent to Jiangling City?"

"I don't know when to go back yet, but the news of his accident has not reached Jiangling for the time being." Then Zhu Yiliu said again, "I hope that after Zhang Jingxiu has experienced this, he can really settle down as you said, and he will no longer be impetuous. I will go to the Imperial Hospital to see Zhang Jingxiu tomorrow."

"Can he listen at this time?" Zheng Miaojin asked worriedly.

Zhu Yili smiled slightly and said, "Will you just test his way?"

After breakfast the next day, Zhu Yili went there.

It just so happened that Wang Heng and Zhang Yunxiu were both there.

Zhang Jingxiu was excited and thanked him repeatedly, and expressed his guilt in his heart. Something happened because he did not handle the relationship between the couple well, which made everyone worried.

Of course, Zhu Yiliu comforted him and felt that Zhang Jingxiu's mentality had indeed changed, which made him very pleased.

So he had to inform him of the content of his conversation with Zheng Miaojin yesterday, and he had to make a temporary change. He decided not to say it today, but to rewrite a letter and hand it over to Zhang Jingxiu before leaving.

In this way, Zhang Jingxiu can also leave it to Qin Hanqian when she returns, hoping that the couple will change their mentality.

But the key is to rely on themselves.

You must know how to reduce expectations, but reducing expectations is not unanticipated. Expectations can give you motivation.

You must also understand that a person’s expectations should be matched with your psychological tolerance, otherwise it will easily attract unhappy emotions for yourself.

Although Zhu Yili was not clear about the specific details, he felt that Zhang Jingxiu and Qin Hanqian had too high expectations for each other, and their relationship would have problems over time.

After reading Zhang Jingxiu, Zhu Yiliu returned to Donghunting Pavilion and immediately wrote a letter. After writing, he did not hand it over to Zhang Jingxiu immediately, but instead planned to wait until Zhang Jingxiu left Beijing and returned to Jiangling City before giving it to him.

Because Zhang Jingxiu's mentality has changed, in order not to worry about his father, Qin Hanqian and others, she was recuperating in the Imperial Hospital for less than a month and wanted to go back before she recovered.

Zhu Yiliu did not object, just send more people to escort, including the specialized doctors on the way.

It is still based on the previous plan, with Zhang Yunxiu leading the way.

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Chapter completed!